"We all put 'sense of humor' on our CV": Women discuss what really makes a man attractive

A man's post on the social network Threads sparked a broad discussion after he asked women to share a trait in men that the men themselves consider unimportant, but that women see as a major plus. He added one condition: the answer could not be "sense of humor," since, in his words, everyone lists that on their CV.

The post drew a large number of responses, and women's answers turned out to be strikingly varied. Some highlighted small, everyday gestures — such as a man remembering what coffee she drinks, or genuinely listening during a conversation by putting his phone aside.

Decisiveness and follow-through

Several women said they find decisiveness attractive — a man who acts rather than hesitates. Keeping one's word was also mentioned: if a man promises something, he follows through. Another commenter valued a man taking responsibility for both his words and actions, and being able to create a sense of security.

Attitude toward others and composure

Many replies focused on how a man treats people around him, including service staff. Good manners, intelligence and empathy came up repeatedly. Several women also emphasized that a calm, unruffled reaction to minor problems felt especially appealing, in contrast to overreacting.

Security, physical traits and resourcefulness

Other answers touched on emotional and physical security, such as a hug or strong arms. Smaller physical details like dimples, or a love of dogs, were also mentioned. One woman described how, in the middle of the night, a man quickly and resourcefully solved a problem with a smoke detector that wouldn't stop beeping, improvising a solution with household items.

Overall, intelligence, emotional intelligence, a desire for personal growth, and interest in meaningful conversation came up frequently, alongside simple, single-word answers like loyalty, responsibility and respect.